Comments on: 10 Key Qualities to Look For in a Wife http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/ Trying God's patience since 1958 Tue, 22 May 2012 08:57:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Edison Yourself http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-109093 Edison Yourself Thu, 05 Jan 2012 08:38:21 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-109093 What do we have to say about this statement, that marriage is an act? Nobody has the manual, the best idea is to refer it to the originator God whos words cover everything. What do we have to say about this statement, that marriage is an act? Nobody has the manual, the best idea is to refer it to the originator God whos words cover everything.

]]> By: John Shore http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-106766 John Shore Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:40:08 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-106766 Um. And then there's <em>that.</em> Um. And then there’s that.

]]> By: amajirionwu moses http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-106764 amajirionwu moses Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:18:21 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-106764 Moses A.N Talking about sex, i am a young guy of 28yrs old because of word of God in me i have kept away from sex (a Virgin) but some one advice me not to go for a girl that has sex before, because i may not be able to satisfy her sexiually, so i should go for a virgin. Can i still find a lady who is a virgin? even in missed of our christian sister is very difficult. Even there in school no way. do we have any at all. please i want your advice.......... this are the things i consider in a women *she must be beautiful *must be a Christian *Must be tollerant *nothing less than 5.6ft Moses A.N
Talking about sex, i am a young guy of 28yrs old because of word of God in me i have kept away from sex (a Virgin) but some one advice me not to go for a girl that has sex before, because i may not be able to satisfy her sexiually, so i should go for a virgin.
Can i still find a lady who is a virgin? even in missed of our christian sister is very difficult. Even there in school no way. do we have any at all.
please i want your advice……….
this are the things i consider in a women
*she must be beautiful
*must be a Christian
*Must be tollerant
*nothing less than 5.6ft

]]> By: Linda B http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-76891 Linda B Sun, 24 Jul 2011 02:47:41 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-76891 You do know you can leave and let him do his own blow jobs. That's why I like women, they have so much a better agenda. Like fairness and equality, comepassion, kindness and perspective and honesty about their expectations. You do know you can leave and let him do his own blow jobs. That’s why I like women, they have so much a better agenda. Like fairness and equality, comepassion, kindness and perspective and honesty about their expectations.

]]> By: George W. http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-70084 George W. Wed, 22 Jun 2011 19:40:07 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-70084 I'm going to pass along the best wisdom I have about marriage to "needhelp". <b>If you and your spouse have a healthy sex life, sex ranks as #11 on a top 10 things that make a good partner, if you have a bad sex life, sex ranks as #1.</b> I know that this doesn't help, but it is about the best advice you can take to get perspective in your marriage. When the sex life is strained, so is every other aspect of the relationship. When the sex life is good, it seems like sex is an afterthought. I think that sometimes the commitment to save ourselves fro the right person is misguided. If I had not committed the sin of living with my high school sweetheart for a year, and had premarital sex, I may very well have married someone who had very different needs and drives as me, and I may very well be hurt, ambivalent, trapped, miserable, or divorced. Instead I am happily married with my fifth child on the way to a woman who is on the same plane as me spiritually, sexually, and emotionally. All the pieces to the puzzle fit because I had a chance to count them before I bought it. It is hard to help you without really knowing your situation. How far apart are you sexually? Obviously personal limits are an issue (as your comment about "blowjobs" attests); but is there room for discussion or concessions? How patient have both of you been with the others needs and desires? How healthy is the rest of the relationship? Is there reason to believe that you both want to resolve the issues? The problem with sex is that frustration is expressed in other areas, and those in turn impact the drive we have to have sex....and the cycle keeps going until there is a breaking point. My high school sweetheart and I loved each other deeply. We were on different planes, at different times, and our foundation had been built on immature habits. We both cried for hours when we finally realized that it was beyond fixing. This is not to say that my wife and I have had a bump free ride. We have fought, we have gone to bed angry, we have (at least I have) thought about whether this was worth all the grief. But in the end we love each other, and have a commitment to make this work. Our relationship is between two people on the same plane and built on mature habits that ensure that disputes will happen but they will get solved in a way that works for both of us. I wish you all the best, and if there is anything that I can do to help....let me know. I’m going to pass along the best wisdom I have about marriage to “needhelp”.
If you and your spouse have a healthy sex life, sex ranks as #11 on a top 10 things that make a good partner, if you have a bad sex life, sex ranks as #1.
I know that this doesn’t help, but it is about the best advice you can take to get perspective in your marriage.
When the sex life is strained, so is every other aspect of the relationship.
When the sex life is good, it seems like sex is an afterthought.

I think that sometimes the commitment to save ourselves fro the right person is misguided. If I had not committed the sin of living with my high school sweetheart for a year, and had premarital sex, I may very well have married someone who had very different needs and drives as me, and I may very well be hurt, ambivalent, trapped, miserable, or divorced.
Instead I am happily married with my fifth child on the way to a woman who is on the same plane as me spiritually, sexually, and emotionally. All the pieces to the puzzle fit because I had a chance to count them before I bought it.

It is hard to help you without really knowing your situation. How far apart are you sexually? Obviously personal limits are an issue (as your comment about “blowjobs” attests); but is there room for discussion or concessions? How patient have both of you been with the others needs and desires? How healthy is the rest of the relationship? Is there reason to believe that you both want to resolve the issues?

The problem with sex is that frustration is expressed in other areas, and those in turn impact the drive we have to have sex….and the cycle keeps going until there is a breaking point. My high school sweetheart and I loved each other deeply. We were on different planes, at different times, and our foundation had been built on immature habits. We both cried for hours when we finally realized that it was beyond fixing.
This is not to say that my wife and I have had a bump free ride. We have fought, we have gone to bed angry, we have (at least I have) thought about whether this was worth all the grief. But in the end we love each other, and have a commitment to make this work. Our relationship is between two people on the same plane and built on mature habits that ensure that disputes will happen but they will get solved in a way that works for both of us.
I wish you all the best, and if there is anything that I can do to help….let me know.

]]> By: Don Rappe http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-69762 Don Rappe Tue, 21 Jun 2011 07:09:16 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-69762 I'm afraid that in this list John has taken sex for granted. He probably had no need to do otherwise. It is impossible to tell from your comment whether you got the kind of husband who doesn't know how to seduce a woman and make her want him or if you are truly mismatched sexually. Still, I have a happily married goddaughter who once briefly discussed this situation with me. I suggested she needed to wait for a man with whom she shared the most important values and also she must like the feel of his touch. I think she got lucky and since she is as beautiful as a movie star and good hearted, so did he. I’m afraid that in this list John has taken sex for granted. He probably had no need to do otherwise. It is impossible to tell from your comment whether you got the kind of husband who doesn’t know how to seduce a woman and make her want him or if you are truly mismatched sexually. Still, I have a happily married goddaughter who once briefly discussed this situation with me. I suggested she needed to wait for a man with whom she shared the most important values and also she must like the feel of his touch. I think she got lucky and since she is as beautiful as a movie star and good hearted, so did he.

]]> By: needhelp http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-69498 needhelp Sun, 19 Jun 2011 17:33:47 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-69498 i spent most of my adult life trying to prepare myself for my man, i prep myself to be compassionate, caring for others, joyful, sociable, spiritual, intelligent, etc... and i dont do bogus but decent in those things... my friends enjoy my friendship and companionship. And i thought i was ready. when i married my husband who first loved me because i love people and have a compassionate heart, now in our marriage, all he really want from me is good sex. and because he felt unsatisfied with his sex life, he is irritated and annoyed most of the time, and its just a vicious cycle over and over again. i just want to say that, i thought these qualities were all that matter... but actually, it is not. the best quality is to just say yes to whatever the husband wants, never mind the values behind it, and learn to give good blowjobs. i'm sorry i sounded blunt... but that is how it is for me. those men who adores these qualities, i envy your wives, and i just want you to know - keep it up, you're a gem. to the wives, pls know you are very fortunate. i spent most of my adult life trying to prepare myself for my man, i prep myself to be compassionate, caring for others, joyful, sociable, spiritual, intelligent, etc… and i dont do bogus but decent in those things… my friends enjoy my friendship and companionship. And i thought i was ready.
when i married my husband who first loved me because i love people and have a compassionate heart, now in our marriage, all he really want from me is good sex. and because he felt unsatisfied with his sex life, he is irritated and annoyed most of the time, and its just a vicious cycle over and over again.

i just want to say that, i thought these qualities were all that matter… but actually, it is not. the best quality is to just say yes to whatever the husband wants, never mind the values behind it, and learn to give good blowjobs.

i’m sorry i sounded blunt… but that is how it is for me.

those men who adores these qualities, i envy your wives, and i just want you to know – keep it up, you’re a gem. to the wives, pls know you are very fortunate.

]]> By: needhelp http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-69495 needhelp Sun, 19 Jun 2011 17:24:47 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-69495 what about sex? what about sex?

]]> By: Shane http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-49040 Shane Tue, 15 Feb 2011 02:19:00 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-49040 Replace "wife" with partner/mate/husband, etc. and I believe this is a fine list. Be blessed! Replace “wife” with partner/mate/husband, etc. and I believe this is a fine list.

Be blessed!

]]> By: John Shore http://johnshore.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/comment-page-3/#comment-49022 John Shore Mon, 14 Feb 2011 20:24:34 +0000 http://johnshore.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/top-10-qualities-to-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-49022 No one who knows much of my work at all would ever think that I choose to write what I do because I believe it will bring me fans. No one who knows much of my work at all would ever think that I choose to write what I do because I believe it will bring me fans.

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