Speaking as someone who … well, fourteen years ago had the conversion experience I recounted in I, a Rabid Anti-Christian, Very Suddenly Convert, we Christians too often fail in these ten ways:
1. Too much money. “Wealthy Christian” should be an oxymoron. In Luke 12:33, Jesus says, “Sell your possessions and give to the poor.” At Matthew 19:21, he says, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor.” In Matthew 6:24, he says: “You cannot serve God and Money.” Christians are generally pretty huge on cleaving to the word of God. I just don’t see how those particular words could be clearer. (For more on this, see my Christians: No Fair Heeding Paul on Gays, But Not Jesus on Wealth.)
2. Too confident God thinks we’re all that and a leather-bound gift Bible. I’d like to humbly suggest that we spend a little more time wondering how we displease God, and a little less time being confident that we do.
3. Too quick to believe that we know what God really means by what he says in the Bible. The Bible is an extremely complex, multi-leveled work. We’re sometimes too quick to assume that we grasp its every meaning. Take this passage, for instance, from Luke 8: 9-10: “His disciples asked him [Jesus] what this parable [of the sower] meant. He said, ‘The knowledge of the secrets of the kingdom of God has been given to you, but to others I speak in parables, so that, ‘though seeing, they may not see; though hearing, they may not understand.’” Huh? And that’s Jesus “explaining” what is generally regarded as one of his most readily understood parables! Are we really all that confident that we always know exactly what Jesus meant by everything he said? Wouldn’t we do well to sometimes admit that the words attributed to God manifested on earth are just a tad … well, Greek to us? (See my The Bible’s Two Big Problems.)
4. Too action-oriented. We Christians could stand to spend less time acting in the name of God, and more time reflecting on the (ever subtle) majesty of God. We need more passivity, and less activity. More meditation, less machination. More reflection, less correction. More contemplation, less administration. More prayers, less airs. More mysticism, less … um … cretinism. (See my Doing Christianity vs. Being Christian.)
5. Too invasive of others generally. It is my personal, humble opinion that anyone seeking to mix church and state has failed to understand the nature and role of either. Being founded upon the principal that all men are created equal and deserving of equal protection under the law is what makes the American system of democracy such a gift to mankind. Attempting to mix the inherently exclusionary imperatives of a particular religion into the resolutely inclusive system of the American constitutional form of government is to work against everything that America stands for. Religion is a personal, subjective affair for the individual; politics and public policy is an impersonal, objective affair for everyone.
6. Too invasive of others personally. We Christians are too often too eager to get up into the faces of others about their personal religious beliefs. If you believe in the reality of hell, than wanting to save non-Christians from going there is a worthy sentiment, of course. But the bottom line is it’s absolutely impossible to talk someone who isn’t a Christian into becoming one; in fact, more than anything else it’s likely to push the non-Christian further from God. I believe we Christians would do very well indeed to spend our time “just” living as Christians, and let God worry about the non-Christians. (What non-Christians Want Christians to Hear.)
7. Too quick to abandon logic. When talking to others about our faith, we Christians too often resort to a language and line of reasoning that leaves good ol’ fashion logic sitting on the ground behind us, waving a sad good-bye. “It’s true because the Bible says it’s true” is, for instance, an assertion that can’t help but leave the non-Christian unimpressed, since it’s so manifestly illogical. “It’s true because the Bible says it’s true” is no more proof of truth than is, “Apples are the best of the fruits, because I think that’s true.” Christians need to more readily admit that the religious experience — no matter how riveting and real it is to the person experiencing it — remains a subjective phenomenon, and talk about it that way.
8. Too fixated on homosexuality. Can we Christians stop already with the gay and lesbian fixation? I know many of us understand our stance on the matter to be unassailably Biblical. I know a great many of us are deeply concerned about the “homosexual agenda.” I know. We all know. Maybe Christians could just give that issue a rest for a while. It’s not like gay and lesbian people are going anywhere. They’ll all be there when we get back. Maybe — for just a week, a day, a month — we could concern ourselves with something else, and let them be. (See Christians: When It Comes to Homosexuality, Man Up.)
9. Too insular. When I became a Christian, one of the things that most amazed me about Christians is the degree to which they tend to hang out only with other Christians. We should stop doing that. How are we supposed to share Christ’s love with non-Christians when we barely know any non-Christians? Time to widen that social base, I say. (Plus, Christian or not, we still want to throw good, fun parties, don’t we? Well, let’s face it: The heathen class has all the good music. We might as well invite a few of them to our next party. Maybe they’ll bring their CD’s!)
10. Too uneducated about Christianity. Generally speaking (which of course is the most offensive way to speak about any group of people), Christians tend to embarrass themselves by knowing so little about either the Bible or the history of Christianity. Believing that the Bible is the word of God, for instance, is one thing; knowing nothing about the long process by which men decided which texts would and wouldn’t make it into the Bible is another. It’s not that all Christians should be full-on theologians or historians. But if you’re a Christian who doesn’t know the Great Schism from The Great Santini, or the Diet of Worms from … well, the diet of worms, then you’ve got homework to do.















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Lindssey: “Hear God’s heart, Julia. Follow your path. Practice peace.”
That IS the way of God, is it not?
And THAT; in a nutshell, is my Path.
Thank you, Lindsey. Mitakuye Oyasin,
Be The Peace,
~julia
I think one can follow God and even Christ without the constraints of traditional “Christianity”. I myself have practiced Buddhism and I have a friend who practices Bhakti Hinduism as a way to follow Christ. It’s confusing, even maddening, but I don’t think you need to stick a “Christian” bumper-sticker on yourself in order to follow God. The Church has become a HUGE stumbling block, I don’t blame people who would rather not be associated with it.
Hear God’s heart, Julia. Follow your path. Practice peace.
It is simply not the Path I was called to walk.
Just being a bit curious Julia.. what is it about Christianity that you are not attracted to?
Christain Beyer: "At the risk of throwing more grease on the fire here, I think she does as a pretty good question. Take a look at the rest of the world’s religions, even Judaism, of which Christianity is a branch of. With the exception of the recent rash of Muslim fundamentalists, none of them seem to be so concerned (obsessed) with making converts of others.
I might be repeating myself here, but I am reminded of the story Huston Smith tells of the Christian lady who found so much beauty in Buddhism. She had the opportunity to ask the Dali Lama how she could become a better Buddhist. He told her to forget about converting to Buddhism but instead work on being a better Christian. It’s better to dig one well deeper than to dig many multiple shallow ones."
Thank you, Christian.
Some do seem to seek the bridge and understand it, yes?
Here's hoping others will continue to build it…
Be The Peace,
~juila
@ John: I plan on getting your book oneday soon. Maybe soon as I write mine….?
@ Lindsey: I believe in God. Just not the Christian version of God.
I too would wish Christians could 'understood the insane amounts of pleasure and satisfaction a practicing believer finds in their daily life because of God, I think they’d be more willing to listen.'
But, agian, the non-Christian lable gets in the way and the bridge crumbles before it had a chance. *sighes*
Be the Peace,
~julia
@ Julia: If you believe in God and choose to ignore him, yes, you're willingly choosing. If you don't believe in God then you don't believe. *shrug* If you want a serious and in depth discussion about this topic, pick up the phone and call your local pastor in whatever flavor of Christianity you fancy to study. If you're bored, might I suggest Sheldon Comics, a very funny web comic about a boy millionaire and his talking duck?
@ John: I understood that you were ribbing her, but I just had to stick my toe out anyway. It's a pet peeve of mine that Christianity is always framed in reference to Hell when talking to non-believers. I mean, it seems insane to deprive one's self of satisfaction in daily life out of fear of something as ephemeral as Hell. And if people understood the insane amounts of pleasure and satisfaction a practicing believer finds in their daily life because of God, I think they'd be more willing to listen.
Julia: You certainly don't get any argument from me on anything you're saying. As you might know, I wrote a whole BOOK dealing with—and trying to get Christians to understand and validate—the exact sentiments you're expressing. It's called, "I'm OK–You're Not: The Message We're Sending Nonbelievers, and Why We Should Stop." It was published by a Christian publisher. Who, shortly after it was published, decided to pull all the copies of it BACK off the bookstore shelves, and burn them.
Not looking for a fight, John. I am looking for understanding.
The sharing of understanding and insights between folks who walk a miriad of paths, each sacred, each unique, each with a wealth of experiences, insights and wisdoms to share with one another.
I've never been a Christian. That does not mean I dont know God. I have a faith, a path, one I feel with all my heart that is one with the Creator, a communion that has existed since before I took my first breath, one I celebrate and seek to exlpore every waking moment. One where I welcome the sharing of experiences and wisdoms with others.
But I've long found as soon as the non-Christian label comes up alot of understanding and sharing just simply…. ceases. Somehow I am deemed…. less. As if I am somehow deficient, unitellegent, lacking in reason and common sense. Whereas Christians modify their 'sharing' into what mostly becomes prosletyizing for it is obvious to them that something MUST be wrong with me for no rational and intelligent human would want to WILLINGLY be non-Christian. Sharing becomes strained or stops altogether where communication and understanding fails. For me to share I must now come over to 'their' side or much of what I could share will simply be dismissed as invalid and worthless. All because I walk a different faith than y'all.
I am baffled by this divide. I just find it…… sad.
I seek to find a bridge to that divide, to understand the chasm between us. Like why choosing to be a non-Christian is so disturbing to Christians.
So far, that bridge has been elusive and hard to build. Especialy when many seem to want to put a toll on that bridge or want it only designed for one-way traffic….
I welcome any dialogue that can help bridge that divide.
Be The Peace,
~julia
At the risk of throwing more grease on the fire here, I think she does as a pretty good question. Take a look at the rest of the world's religions, even Judaism, of which Christianity is a branch of. With the exception of the recent rash of Muslim fundamentalists, none of them seem to be so concerned (obsessed) with making converts of others.
I might be repeating myself here, but I am reminded of the story Huston Smith tells of the Christian lady who found so much beauty in Buddhism. She had the opportunity to ask the Dali Lama how she could become a better Buddhist. He told her to forget about converting to Buddhism but instead work on being a better Christian. It's better to dig one well deeper than to dig many multiple shallow ones.
No, Lindsey, you're right, of course. And that's not splitting hairs, of course: that's the essence of it. I emphasized the negative because of how true it is that generally it's the Christians who act basically pissed off that others aren't Christian who are coming from that place of condemnation and negativity. You could tell she was talking about that ilk of Christian. She's also clearly just baiting, and so I didn't care to spend time treating her question in any kind of … thorough way.
Julia: C'mon. Stop. What possible pleasure can there be for you in baiting and arguing with Christians? You're clearly just looking for a fight–or, as people instigating such exchanges almost invariably put it, a "debate." If you don't want to be Christian, don't be. No worries.
So, willingly choosing to be non-Christian is willingly choosing to go to hell?
Willingly choosing to ignore life?
Willingly choosing to ignore god?
John, not to split hairs, but there's also all the Christians who believe that it is only through Christ that we can live in the fullness of who we were created to be, and gain a far deeper knowledge of love and spirituality. It's not ALWAYS about death, it's about life, too.
Julia, you surely know the answer to your question. But in case you're … I don't know, seven years old, or were raised in a country in which Christianity is almost utterly foreign: The vast majority of Christians think anyone who is not a Christian should become Christian so that when they die they don't go to hell.
So, what IS wrong with being non-Christian?
Someone? Anyone…..?
That is an excellent question. Why are we (Christians) so concerned about the faith of others? Seems to me that we should leave that up to God and redirect our focus on how we are relating and responding to him.
What is so wrong about being a non-Christian? Heck, Moses, Abraham, Isaac – all the prophets – they weren't Christians either.
My simple question to Christians is this: What is so wrong with being a non-Christian?
It is a honest and sincere question. I am curious why being non-Christian seems to just disturb so many Christians….
Yeah, Mike. Twain also said: "It ain't those parts of the Bible that I can't understand that bother me, it is the parts that I do understand. "
I've heard fundamentalists use that quote to suggest that Twain was uncomfortable with the truth. I just think that he was uncomfortable with Christians. And with good reason.
Then again….
As a post de-converted Christian (smiling here), I would add a #11 (maybe).
11. Investing too much time, money and energy building "churches", funding building projects, creating Superstar personalities with expanding "ministries", and basically treating the Church like a business.
Can you imagine what Jesus would say about all of that, in the midst of the thousands upon thousands of homeless and hungry right in our own backyards? Every night here in Los Angeles, there are almost 80,000 people having to sleep on the streets.
I'm not sure how I found my way to your blog…but I appreciate what you say here.
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