Members of Marijuana Anonymous tend to think the world consists of three kinds of people: Normies, Stoners, and fellow members of Marijuana Anonymous.
Normies can take pot or leave it. A puff now and then is cool, but if they run out of pot they don’t freak out. They’re just … normal about it.
Stoners are people who by and large cling to the delusion that they’re normies—but who never, ever run out of weed if they can help it.
People in Marijuana Anonymous are stoners who finally grew desperate over the fact that, no matter how hard they tried, they just couldn’t, so to speak, keep off the grass.
“Being an addict is horrible,” says Laura B. before an MA meeting I recently visited in downtown San Diego, CA. “You’re just helpless against your desire.” Laura leans back in one of the sixty or so chairs that describe a double row of seats placed around the large, vacant room. We’re in an abandoned car repair garage, a structure well suited for the sort of serious, no-frills business recovering addicts are about.
“The thing is,” Laura continues, “People don’t really take pot seriously. Everybody thinks it’s so benign—like it’s not really addictive, you know? Well, [swear word] that. I tried coke, speed, acid. But weed’s the only thing that grabbed me by my backbone. It just wouldn’t let me go. And right away, too. I just turned on to it. For twenty years, I got stoned almost every single day. And here I just celebrated my first year of sobriety. A year! I’m telling you the truth: I thank God every day for Marijuana Anonymous.”
Marijuana Anonymous depends for its recovery process upon the renowned 12 Step Program utilized by Alcoholics Anonymous. It’s a non-profit, world-wide organization unaffiliated with any other organization, religious or secular.
They’re huge—and everywhere. There’s probably a weekly MA meeting held somewhere near you.
Each meeting, which lasts an hour, is run by a Secretary, who at the beginning of each session asks two or three regular attendees to read aloud an invocation that reminds them all of who they are, and why they have come. Next, the Secretary asks if anyone present is celebrating an anniversary of sobriety: a month, three months, a year, and the like. If someone is, that person stands, and another MA member or friend makes a short speech praising their victory. Following this testimony, the conquering hero is rewarded a “sobriety chip,” small disks of varying colors bearing the MA logo on one side and, say, “Sixty Days” printed in gold on the other. These tokens count among a recovering addict’s most cherished possessions.
The Secretary then declares the meeting open to discussion—but not before stipulating three conditions: that no one person speak for more than five minutes, that no one interuppt someone else who’s speaking, and that no one who has in any way gotten intoxicated within the previous 24 hours speak at all.
And then, for forty or so minutes, people relate the nature of their ongoing struggle against the temptations of marijuana.
Afterward, a small basket is passed around. Most people present drop in a buck or two. No one has to.
Tom Carlyle. is a drug councilor and long-time MA Secretary.
“I’ve been going to MA meetings for over five years,” he says. “And at every meeting I learn something new. I don’t think there’s a more encouraging or enriching thing than to hear a person finally and honestly confess in public that pot has ruined the quality of their lives. It means there’s hope for that person—real hope. An addict can find strength at these meetings. The amazing thing is the range of people who attend them. Some people are just starting to quit. Others have been sober for years, and so can offer that longer perspective. It’s great, because wherever you are in the journey towards regaining control of your life, there’s always someone around who’s exactly one step ahead of you, and another who’s one step behind. You’re surrounded by people who can understand exactly where you’re at and what you’re going through. That’s just invaluable. And it’s people from all walks of life, too. Doctors, lawyers, housewives … everybody. Pot doesn’t discriminate.”
To formally conclude an MA meeting, everyone rises and stands in a circle holding hands. Having kept a moment of silence in remembrance of the addict who still suffers, the group then says a prayer. It is almost always the famous Serenity Prayer: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
The Marijuana Anonymous website is here.
The 12 Steps of Marijuana Anonymous are:
1. We admitted we were powerless over marijuana, that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God.
4. We took a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. We humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to marijuana addicts, and to practice these principals in all our affairs.
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Brian: I am hereby officially inviting you to be a guest blogger on my blog. I’d like you to write about how you acquired this Legalized Smoker status—and why, and how you feel about it, and … well, whatever else you’d like to say about it. You’re a good writer; I think it’d be an interesting read. If it’s too personal to share, of course I understand. But if you’d like to share a bit about how you came to this fairly unique status, please do! As I say, I think it’d be an interesting read.
500 to 1,000 words, if you would. (No one, as I’m sure you’re aware, reads more than 1,000 words at a time online—or not on a blog, anyway.) Coolio. Thanks.
Not that it will matter to most of you, but I’m legal now. I went to a doctor Friday and am now legally allowed to possess eight ounces and smoke it outside as long as I’m not within 1000 feet of a school.
This has been a good read John, thank you for being so open minded!!
I am “one of those” addicts that attend MA mtg’s in Australia, and it definately saved my life! I was a “hardcore” user for over 15yrs, and i couldn’t get a day up alone, never mind an hour!
People may think that the 12 step programmes are for losers, but as mentioned above, it takes courage to admit we have an addiction and that our lives are unmanageable. The people that don’t get that, never will! We can talk to them till the cows come home, but we’ll just be wasting precious oxygen!
Addiction IS A DISEASE, it’s been proven, and maybe some of the people with strong opinions, go into hospitals asking people with kidney problems why they need dialysis on a daily basis? Our disease is the same, it needs to be treated on a daily basis, through attending meetings, working the steps, contact with your sponsor, etc. For those that think this is weak… look in your own backyard before you so quick to judge others.
Personally, i am eternally grateful to the 12 step fellowships and those people that give their time to keep them running, my life will never be the same!
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