Comments on: Women in Abusive Relationships: He Uses That He’s Lovable Against You

By: A. Nonymous

A. Nonymous — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 18:56:05 +0000

Your articles have kept me from returning to an ex-husband who thought choking me was normal. Thanks John, you are saving lives.

By: Penny

Penny — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 16:55:21 +0000

You allude to it, but I’ll state it baldly: Even when abuse includes not one whit of physical contact, it’s still abuse, and it’s just as vile and harmful. My stepfather was a very verbally abusive man. He didn’t beat my Mother physically, but he beat her with his words, just as surely as if he had used his fists.

Sometimes women in verbally abusive relationships have a hard time convincing themselves to get the hell out, rationalizing it away with, “But he’s never hit me.”

By: toni

toni — Fri, 08 May 2009 13:15:32 +0000

Once again, John, you have “hit the nail directly on the head” and perfectly described what is or was happening in so many of our lives. And we know it is all true. Even the part about another man being just as lovable as we “think” this cruel love of our life is. Unfortunately, it is like a drowning person hanging onto a life-preserver…we are so afraid we are going to drown that we won’t let go of the ring, and all the while we almost hope THEY will just cut the rope and let us go down. Or something like that.
But how do you understand so well?

By: Gwen meacham

Gwen meacham — Fri, 08 May 2009 01:13:27 +0000

Very good points.