Guest post: “A Good Week to Hate Christians”

Years ago I went to a Christian high school where dancing was disallowed.. and yet – if we asked if we could come together and ‘move to the music’ we were allowed to do so. Can’t you and your partner find other ways to get your home state to accept your rights as human beings and as a couple? I think about power of attorney, creating wills for each-other (and ensure that they ARE accepted… even if I know doing so will be painful – it can’t be worse than the worst having happened and then having to FIGHT for what should be yours – as the widow – (who had ‘only’ lived in cohabitation with the man for over 10 years) – of a rich Swedish author discovered after his death) and more … paper-stuff – not my biggest strength – but still… I think that that might give you a lot more rights than you know – even if it has to be done the hard way.

I just copied the new law in that link you had… and this is was I read from it… (same from over really…)
The change reads ‘Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State’.(says nothing about your own feeling or whatever – given that you have been together far longer than many heterosexual couples have – in my country the rate is 50% that divorce after a couple of years maybe a little more so just that is a little awe-inspiring) ‘This section does not prohibit a private party from entering into contracts with another private party; nor does this section prohibit courts from adjudicating the rights of private parties pursuant to such contracts.’ ->as in – you should figure out what rights they get and what you have to do to get them. Yes your marriage is not valid in the state you live in, but, you as a couple consider it so. So forget about being allowed to CALL yourself married om stately papers or whatever – and rather focus on giving yourself the same right as you got earlier… just by getting married all those years ago. … Cause the point is – just cause there are much ‘religiousness’ about how Christians should behave and what they should do… does not mean that there aren’t ways around it (dance/movement to music). If the laws are unjust – then read the laws/rules and consider what they really say you can and cannot do. If there are no ‘automatic’ adoption of kids (if you have any) – then make sure BOTH parents are on papers considered so … That might help if anything should happen.

There are a lot of racism in the US – but aren’t there a lot of laws that deal with it as well? Can’t you sue the government or whoever it is for it?(US – the country where people sue for the weirdest things…) – cause as long as it is presented in a right way I can’t see hos a country that is ‘Christian’ can deny you freedom from persecution and the right to walk around safely on the streets. (or however it is worded). Jews and more groups were dehumanized during the 2nd world war, and that was the ONLY way that most people accepted and allowed much of what happened. By not grouping yourself as gay or lesbian or other (when you talk about it) – but simply focusing on the fact that you too are human beings… I think you could go a long way in getting people’s acceptance.

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I can’t support gay marriage, which, if I did – would be issuy when it comes to my relationship with God. But, I can still say that I hope things goes better for you and your family. I don’t understand how anyone who can want to hurt you like that – much less Christians – when the Bible itself shows that we should NOT do such. The only times in the Bible I can remember Jesus being angry – was in the temple when the priest ++ had allowed it to become a marked while they KNEW that that was wrong according to God’s law. Its… Jesus said that God’s law is above all others. Its also IN us – which is why so many countries – Christian or otherwise, have so many similar laws. On the whole issue… I think that it is quite simply actually. If you are gay and live in a sexual relationship.. you can still be and become a Christian. (I would not want you to be a priest or similar… in the church that is – but other than that…). Sooner or later you’d have to take it up with Jesus to be able to get further in ones relationship with God. … and the last part is none of my business. I have my own issues and difficulties and well – as Lucas 7 says it ‘“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.»

… and that well… – is all I can say about the whole issue… (you might find the whole chapter interesting though – even if you should be careful how you ‘translate’ some of the words used some places)

As for you and your husband – if you ever travel to Norway, Bergen – I’d like (forewarning of course) to invite you two (and family?… my apartment is pretty small though…) for dinner where we can talk about whatever. (not that I’m the most social of person, or talkative… or anything like that but still – could be interesting to get to know someone who has been married/together that long and STILL is loyal to each other…). Gods blessing on you and yours:)

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ELECTION DAY UPDATE:

We made it to the polling station, and out, without my getting arrested. I did steal some wheelchairs and walkers from some elderly pro-Amendment One voters … figured the hitch-hike home would give them a chance to reflect on their trip to ballot box.

Seriously, the more heartened I become, the more glib I become … my words really can’t express how much your words have meant to me and my husband.

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