Relationships

Mother’s Day: Raised Too Alone

May
11
2013

maternity

If your mother was caustic, toxic, abusive, vindictive, twisted, dangerous:

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Love: Like a teacup on the Titanic

May
03
2013

brokenheart

Got this in: Hello, Sir! I’ve read through your work, and especially liked your 2+2=5  post. I have a problem that makes me very sad, and I can’t change anything about it, so I followed your advice in that post, asked for peace, and got some! Except it was temporary relief … Maybe I asked wrong?

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One Man. Two fiancees. One prenup-nup?

Apr
09
2013

goudie_alexander-three_judges~OM1a3300~10437_20090818_263_680

In this morning: Hi John, We are three professionals, myself and two women that are talking about living together. There are no children in the picture and not sure if there will be or not. I have given a lot of thought of how to structure an agreement so it is fair to us all [...]

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Sexual Abuse and the Luck of the Draw

Mar
20
2013

luckofdraw

Apropos to my last post, Six Things to Know About Sexual Abuse and Forgiveness, I late last night wrote as a status on my Facebook page: I think if there’s one message that victims of abuse need to hear and believe, it’s that every single ounce of the total power of their lives is still [...]

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The miracle of one dog plus lots of love

Nov
02
2012

mattdog

Hi guys. The letter below is from a good woman I know. It doesn’t describe 1/100th of what she does out of love for her fiancé. Please help this young couple if you can. And you absolutely can, no matter what, by maximally sharing this post—and especially this link. Please do that, a lot. The [...]

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What does a woman mean when she says “I need space”?

Oct
18
2012

backoff

Dear John, A good friend of mine suggested I contact you. I am now at the end of a five-year relationship and I am feeling lost as to what happened. We have had no fights, no disagreements, no infidelity. Just all of a sudden, it is over. I came home yesterday to a “Dear John” [...]

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Dear John

What Is Prayer?

Aug
28
2010

oldprayer

“What is prayer? Thanks!” That was the entire email recently sent to me by a reader. How could I not respond? The short answer is that prayer is deliberately, attentively, and openly turning your mind to God. The longer answer is that there are in essence two kinds of prayers: meditative and intentional.

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Christian Issues

The fundamentally toxic Christianity

Sep
11
2012

And-Jesus-Wept

Everything that’s wrong with Christianity in one nutshell.

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Relationships

What does a woman mean when she says “I need space”?

Oct
18
2012

backoff

Dear John, A good friend of mine suggested I contact you. I am now at the end of a five-year relationship and I am feeling lost as to what happened. We have had no fights, no disagreements, no infidelity. Just all of a sudden, it is over. I came home yesterday to a “Dear John” [...]

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Christian Spirituality

Joseph and Pregnant Mary at the Inn

Dec
09
2012

trough

Joseph: How do you feel, Mary? Mary: Pregnant. Very pregnant. Joseph: Are you comfortable? Do you have enough hay? Mary: I do, thank you. And thanks for doing such a thorough job cleaning that feeding trough. I can’t believe our baby’s first crib will be a feeding trough. Joseph: No, no: it’s not a feeding [...]

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Humor

Top 10 Things I WON’T Say To Rob Bell During Our Lunch Today

Apr
18
2012

Rob-Bell

Later today I’ll be having lunch with former mega-church founder and leader, best-selling author and soon-to-be huge television star Rob Bell. While of course security concerns prohibit me from revealing the location of what Rob has called our “epic lunch,” two words should be enough for you to grasp the magnitude of this groundbreaking summit: [...]

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Personal

“Your laughter is interfering with my degrading shame”

Jan
28
2013

dadmeblog1

If I had a thousand years and spoke as many languages I couldn’t begin to express my gratefulness for the messages of condolences so many of you sent me after learning that my father died. I feel my father read and was moved by them all. Each and every one of those messages also somehow [...]

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